TODAY
BALLOONS OVER BEND CHILDREN’S FESTIVAL: Balloons launch over Bend, weather permitting; followed by a festival with activities, food, crafts, a balloon blast race and more; a portion of proceeds benefits Saving Grace; free, fees for activities; 6 a.m. launch, 10 a.m.-5 p.m. festival, 1:30 p.m. balloon blast; Riverbend Park, Southwest Columbia Street and Southwest Shevlin Hixon Drive; 541-323-0964 or www .balloonsoverbend.com.
OREGON HIGH DESERT CLASSICS I: A class AA hunter-jumper equestrian competition; proceeds benefit J Bar J Youth Services; free admission; 8 a.m.- 9 p.m.; J Bar J Boys Ranch, 62895 Hamby Road, Bend; 541-610-5826, agow@jbarj.org or www.jbarj.org/ohdc.
PRINEVILLE FARMERS MARKET: Free; 8:30 a.m.- 12:30 p.m.; Prineville City Plaza, 387 N.E. Third St.; 503-739-0643 or prinevillefarmersmarket@gmail.com.
HIGH DESERT GARDEN TOUR: View six gardens in the Bend area in a self-guided tour; $10, free ages 16 and younger; 9 a.m.- 3 p.m.541-548-6088 or extension.oregonstate.edu/ deschutes.
MADRAS SATURDAY MARKET: Free admission; 9 a.m.-2 p.m.; Sahalee Park, B and Seventh streets; 541-489-3239 or madrassatmkt@gmail.com.
NEWBERRY’S ANNUAL GARDEN SHOW: Featuring plants that can be grown in Central Oregon and water features; free; 9 a.m.-5 p.m.; Newberry home, 1968 N.E. Hollowtree Lane, Bend; kingsrazor@yahoo.com.
ANTIQUES IN THE PARK: Vendors sell antiques, with live music and a barbecue; free; 10 a.m.-5 p.m.; Creekside Park, U.S. Highway 20 and Jefferson Avenue, Sisters; 541-420-0279 or centraloregonshows@gmail.com.
GLORY DAZE CAR SHOW: Open to all makes and models through 1989; with live music; $25 to register, free for spectators; 10 a.m.-4 p.m.; downtown Sisters; 541-549-0251 or jeri@sisterscountry.com.
MID-SUMMER MADNESS RACE: Watch race trucks, buggies, UTVs and more race around an off-road track; $10, free ages 10 and younger; 10 a.m.; Deschutes County Fair & Expo Center, 3800 S.W. Airport Way, Redmond; 541-410-8119 or www.central oregonracepark.com.
NORTHWEST CROSSING FARMERS MARKET: Free; 10 a.m.-2 p.m.; NorthWest Crossing, Mt. Washington and Northwest Crossing drives, Bend; 541-382-1662, valerie@brooksresources.com or www .nwxfarmersmarket.com.
TOUR OF HOMES: Featuring self-guided tours of homes throughout Central Oregon; free; 10 a.m.-6 p.m.; 541-389-1058 or www.coba.org.
WAKEBOARD AND WATER-SKI CONTEST: With wakeboarding, an awards ceremony and barbecue for contestants; spectators welcome; proceeds benefit the Sundance WaterSports Club; $25 or $30, free for spectators; 8:30 a.m. registration, 10:30 a.m. start; Lake Billy Chinook, Crooked River Bridge and Jordan Road, Culver; 541-480-0410 or http://sundancewatersports.com.
PIONEER’S PICNIC: Bring a lunch and meet with queens from the Deschutes Pioneers’ Association; free; noon; Des Chutes Historical Museum, 129 N.W. Idaho Ave., Bend; 541-389-1813 or http://deschutespioneers.org.
BATS!: Meet live bats and learn about their survival and their role in the ecosystem; $10 or $5 ages 2-11 (plus museum admission), $7 or $4 ages 2-11 for museum members; free ages 1 and younger; 12:30 and 3:30 p.m.; High Desert Museum, 59800 S. U.S. Highway 97, Bend; 541-382-4754 or www .highdesertmuseum.org.
“HONK!”: Bend Experimental Art Theatre presents a musical adaptation of “The Ugly Duckling”; $15, $10 ages 5-18; 2 p.m.; 2nd Street Theater, 220 N.E. Lafayette Ave., Bend; 541-419-5558, beat@bendbroadband.com or www.beattickets.org.
AUTHOR PRESENTATION: Pauls Toutonghi talks about his book “Evel Knievel Days”; RSVP requested; free; 5 p.m.; Sunriver Books & Music, Sunriver Village Building 25C; 541-593-2525 or www.sunriverbooks.com.
FARM TO FORK DINNER: Eat and drink locally produced food and tour the farm; $75 by check, $85 by credit card; 5 p.m.; Fields Farm, 61915 Pettigrew Road, Bend; 503-473-3952 or www.farm toforkevents.com/purchase.
OREGON HIGH DESERT CLASSICS GRAND PRIX: A class AA hunter-jumper equestrian competition; proceeds benefit J Bar J Youth Services; free admission; 5:30 p.m.; J Bar J Boys Ranch, 62895 Hamby Road, Bend; 541-610-5826, agow@jbarj.org or www.jbarj.org/ohdc.
CASCADE CYCLING CLASSIC: The Twilight Downtown Criterium takes place on Wall and Bond streets, between Oregon and Idaho avenues; free for spectators; 5:45 p.m.; downtown Bend; 541-388-0002 or www.cascade-classic.org.
AUTHOR PRESENTATION: Kim McCarrel presents a new edition of her book “Riding Central Oregon Horse Trails”; free; 6:30 p.m.; Paulina Springs Books, 252 W. Hood Ave., Sisters; 541-549-0866.
CHRIS ISAAK: The Californian crooner performs; $39 or $69 reserved, plus fees; 6:30 p.m., gates open 5 p.m.; Les Schwab Amphitheater, 344 S.W. Shevlin Hixon Drive, Bend; 541-318-5457 or www.bendconcerts.com.
“HONK!”: Bend Experimental Art Theatre presents a musical adaptation of “The Ugly Duckling”; $15, $10 ages 5-18; 7 p.m.; 2nd Street Theater, 220 N.E. Lafayette Ave., Bend; 541-419-5558, beat@bendbroadband.com or www.beat tickets.org.
RICHARD GREEN: The singer-songwriter performs; free; 7 p.m.; Niblick and Greene’s, 7535 Falcon Crest Drive #100, Redmond; 541-548-4220.
SHOW US YOUR SPOKES: Featuring a performance by The Mostest and The JZ Band; proceeds benefit Commute Options; $5; 7 p.m.; Parrilla Grill, 635 N.W. 14th St., Bend; 541-617-9600.
HIVEMIND: The Portland-based rock band performs; $5; 8 p.m.; The Horned Hand, 507 N.W. Colorado Ave., Bend; 541-728-0879 or www .reverbnation.com/venue/thehorned hand.
FLOATER: The veteran Oregon trio plays an electric rock ‘n’ roll set, with Jones Road; $15 plus fees in advance, $18 at the door; 9 p.m., doors open 8 p.m.; Domino Room, 51 N.W. Greenwood Ave., Bend; 541-788-2989 or www.randompresents.com.
HERRICK: The Nashville, Tenn.-based country band performs; free; 9 p.m.; Maverick’s Country Bar and Grill, 20565 Brinson Blvd., Bend; 541-325-1886.
SUNDAY
BALLOONS OVER BEND CHILDREN’S FESTIVAL: Balloons launch over Bend, weather permitting; followed by a festival with activities, food, crafts and more; a portion of proceeds benefits Saving Grace; free, fees for activities; 6 a.m. launch, 10 a.m.-2 p.m. festival; Riverbend Park, Southwest Columbia Street and Southwest Shevlin Hixon Drive; 541-323-0964 or www .balloonsoverbend.com.
OREGON HIGH DESERT CLASSICS I: A class AA hunter-jumper equestrian competition; proceeds benefit J Bar J Youth Services; free admission; 8 a.m.-5 p.m.; J Bar J Boys Ranch, 62895 Hamby Road, Bend; 541-610-5826, agow@jbarj.org or www.jbarj.org/ohdc.
ANTIQUES IN THE PARK: Vendors sell antiques, with live music and a barbecue; free; 10 a.m.-4 p.m.; Creekside Park, U.S. Highway 20 and Jefferson Avenue, Sisters; 541-420-0279 or centraloregonshows@gmail.com.
TOUR OF HOMES: Featuring self-guided tours of homes throughout Central Oregon; free; 10 a.m.-6 p.m.; 541-389-1058 or www.coba.org.
WAKEBOARD AND WATER-SKI CONTEST: With water skiing, an awards ceremony and barbecue for contestants; spectators welcome; proceeds benefit the Sundance WaterSports Club; $25 or $30, free for spectators; 8:30 a.m. registration, 10:30 a.m. start; Lake Billy Chinook, Crooked River Bridge and Jordan Road, Culver; 541-480-0410 or http://sundancewatersports.com.
BATS!: Meet live bats and learn about their survival and their role in the ecosystem; $10 or $5 ages 2-11 (plus museum admission), $7 or $4 ages 2-11 for museum members; free ages 1 and younger; 12:30 and 3:30 p.m.; High Desert Museum, 59800 S. U.S. Highway 97, Bend; 541-382-4754 or www .highdesertmuseum.org.
BILL COSBY: The legendary comedian and actor performs; $32-$54; 1 p.m.; Deschutes County Fair & Expo Center, Hooker Creek Event Center, 3800 S.W. Airport Way, Redmond; www.c3events.com.
CASCADE CYCLING CLASSIC: The 83- or 67-mile Awbrey Butte Circuit Race begins and ends at Summit High School; followed by a kids race for ages 2-16; free for spectators; 1 p.m., kids race 1:30 p.m.; Summit High School, 2855 N.W. Clearwater Drive, Bend; 541-388-0002 or www.cascade-classic.org.
FIDDLERS JAM: Listen or dance at the Oregon Old Time Fiddlers Jam; donations accepted; 1-3:30 p.m.; VFW Hall, 1836 S.W. Veterans Way, Redmond; 541-447-7395.
SUMMER SUNDAY CONCERT: The roots band Farewell Drifters performs; free; 2:30 p.m., gates open at noon; Les Schwab Amphitheater, 344 S.W. Shevlin Hixon Drive, Bend; 541-322-9383 or www.bendconcerts.com.
SUMMER BELLY DANCE SHOWCASE: The High Desert Bellydance Guild performs belly dances in a variety of styles; preceded by a drumming workshop; free; 6 p.m., workshop at 4:30 p.m.; Mirror Pond plaza, eastern end of Drake Park, Bend; 541-410-4614 or www.highdesertbellydance.org.
EMMYLOU HARRIS: The Americana icon performs, with Amber Rubarth; $45; 6:30 p.m., doors open 6 p.m.; Athletic Club of Bend, 61615 Athletic Club Drive; 541-382-3940 or www .c3events.com.
MOONDOG MATINEE: The Nevada-based roots-rock band performs; $5; 8 p.m.; The Horned Hand, 507 N.W. Colorado Ave., Bend; 541-728-0879 or www.reverbnation.com/ venue/thehornedhand.
MONDAY
“STAR TREK, THE NEXT GENERATION ANNIVERSARY EVENT”: A screening of two episodes from the show, with introductions from Star Trek experts; $12.50; 7 p.m.; Regal Old Mill Stadium 16 & IMAX, 680 S.W. Powerhouse Drive, Bend; 541-382-6347 or www.fathom events.com.
TUESDAY
REDMOND FARMERS MARKET: Free admission; 2-6:30 p.m.; Centennial Park, Seventh Street and Evergreen Avenue; 541-550-0066 or redmondfarmersmarket1@ hotmail.com.
TUESDAY MARKET AT EAGLE CREST: Free admission; 2-6 p.m.; Eagle Crest Resort, 1522 Cline Falls Road, Redmond; 541-633-9637 or info@sustainableflame.com.
SUZANE NORTHROP: The psychic medium performs gallery-style readings and delivers messages from the deceased; registration recommended; $50; 7-9 p.m.; The Old Stone, 157 N.W. Franklin Ave., Bend; 541-549-4004 or www.after lifeconference.com/northrop.htm.
“THE WHO — QUADROPHENIA”: A screening of the film about The Who as they created their 1973 album; $12.50; 8 p.m.; Regal Old Mill Stadium 16 & IMAX, 680 S.W. Powerhouse Drive, Bend; 541-382-6347 or www.fathomevents.com.
TROPICAL PUNK: The Nashville, Tenn.-based garage rock band performs; free; 8 p.m.; The Horned Hand, 507 N.W. Colorado Ave., Bend; 541-728-0879 or www.reverbnation .com/venue/thehornedhand.
JOHN NEMETH AND HIS BAND: The California-based blues act performs; donations accepted; 9-11 p.m., doors open 8 p.m.; Brasada Ranch, 16986 S.W. Brasada Ranch Road, Powell Butte; 866-373-4882.
WEDNESDAY
OREGON HIGH DESERT CLASSICS II: A class AA hunter-jumper equestrian competition; proceeds benefit J Bar J Youth Services; free admission; 8 a.m.-5 p.m.; J Bar J Boys Ranch, 62895 Hamby Road, Bend; 541-610-5826, agow@jbarj.org or www.jbarj.org/ohdc.
JEFFERSON COUNTY FAIR & RODEO: The annual event features exhibits, a talent show, dance, and a rodeo; free admission, $6 in advance or $7 at the door for rodeo; 10 a.m.-10 p.m.; Jefferson County Fair Complex, 430 S.W. Fairgrounds Road, Madras; 541-325-5050.
BEND FARMERS MARKET: Free admission; 3-7 p.m.; Brooks Alley, between Northwest Franklin Avenue and Northwest Brooks Street; 541-408-4998, bendfarmersmarket@gmail.com or http://bendfarmersmarket.com.
PICKIN’ AND PADDLIN’ MUSIC SERIES: Includes boat demonstrations in the Deschutes River, and music by Americana act the Shook Twins; proceeds benefit Bend Paddle Trail Alliance; free; 4-7 p.m. demonstrations, 7-10 p.m. music; Tumalo Creek Kayak & Canoe, 805 S.W. Industrial Way, Suite 6, Bend; 541-317-9407.
ALIVE AFTER FIVE: Featuring a performance by jazz act Laila Biali, with the Marna Larsen Quartet; located off of northern Powerhouse Drive; free; 5-8:30 p.m.; Old Mill District, 661 S.W. Powerhouse Drive, Bend; 541-389-0995 or www.c3events.com.
MUSIC ON THE GREEN: Featuring rock music by the Soul Benders; vendors available; free; 6-7:30 p.m.; Sam Johnson Park, Southwest 15th Street, Redmond; 541-923-5191 or http://visitredmondoregon.com.
PICNIC IN THE PARK: Featuring a jazz performance by 234th Army Band; free; 6-8 p.m.; Pioneer Park, 450 N.E. Third St., Prineville; 541-447-6909.
“THE METROPOLITAN OPERA, DER ROSENKAVALIER”: Starring Renee Fleming, Susan Graham and Kristin Sigmundsson in an encore presentation of Strauss’ masterpiece; opera performance transmitted in high definition; $12.50; 6:30 p.m.; Regal Old Mill Stadium 16 & IMAX, 680 S.W. Powerhouse Drive, Bend; 541-382-6347.
LIBRARY NIGHT WITH THE BEND ELKS: Learn about the library’s summer reading program and watch the Bend Elks play the San Francisco Seals; $3 via website, free ages 12 and younger with adult; 6:30 p.m.; Vince Genna Stadium, Southeast Fifth Street and Roosevelt Avenue; 541-617-7050 or www.ezticketlive .com/LIBRARY.
THE LIBRARY BOOK CLUB: Read and discuss “Before I Go to Sleep” by S.J. Watson; free; 6:30 p.m.; Sisters Public Library, 110 N. Cedar St.; 541-312-1074 or www .deschuteslibrary.org/calendar.
RICHARD GREEN: The singer-songwriter performs; free; 7 p.m.; Niblick and Greene’s, 7535 Falcon Crest Drive #100, Redmond; 541-548-4220.
WINDY HILL: The bluegrass act performs; free; 7 p.m.; McMenamins Old St. Francis School, 700 N.W. Bond St., Bend; 541-382-5174 or www.mcmenamins.com.
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FROM UNIVERSAL UCLICK
FOR RELEASE: SATURDAY, JULY 21, 2012
DEAR ABBY by Abigail Van Buren
MAN URGES WIFE TO EMBRACE HER NEW LIFE AFTER HIS DEATH
DEAR ABBY: You once printed a letter from a man who was dying. He wanted his surviving widow to pursue happiness after his death with some man who would be kind to her. The letter was mainly addressed to those who might stand in judgment if she began dating soon after he was gone.
Abby, is there a rule of thumb about how long the widow or widower should wait after the death of the spouse to begin pursuing another relationship? -- LONELY IN GADSDEN, ALA.
DEAR LONELY: There was a time when it was considered scandalous for a widow or widower to date before a year of mourning had passed. However, today the grieving spouse may begin to date whenever he or she feels ready to do so.
The letter you remember was signed “’Mac’ in Oregon,” and it bears repeating. Read on:
DEAR ABBY: Thank you for supporting the widow who started dating three months after her husband died. You were right when you told her, “The time to show respect for one’s spouse is while that spouse is living.”
Here is my story, and there must be a few thousand husbands (and wives) who feel the same as I do.
My wife and I have had many good years together. We raised kids, lived through joyous good times and horrendous bad times.
I am in my 18th month of chemo treatment for various cancers. I may live three months or five years. It doesn’t matter how short or how long my life will be, but it’s reasonable to assume that I will die before my wife does.
I have had a more rewarding and fruitful life than I probably deserve, for which I am grateful. But the day I die, my last thoughts will be regret that I shall leave her alone. So sad, to me, to know that after so many months of total concentration on my welfare -- days of putting up with my misery and never letting me see her own misery -- her reward will be to be left alone.
Abby, she is not the kind of person who should be left alone.
So I tell her now, and I want all my kids and friends to listen: “As soon as you possibly can, after throwing my ashes off the boat into the Pacific, wrap the memories of our life together around you -- and begin a new life. If three days, or three months, after I’m gone, you find a man who will love and cherish you for a few years as I have for so many, go for it! You’ve earned it.” -- “MAC” IN OREGON
DEAR MAC: Your sincerity rings true, leaving me uncharacteristically speechless. Thanks for a two-hankie letter.
DEAR ABBY: My granddaughter is due to have a baby in a short while. She wants to have a baby shower and would like to invite her girlfriends with their husbands or boyfriends.
I always thought that baby showers were for females only. What is your opinion? -- WONDERING GRANDMOTHER
DEAR WONDERING: Times have changed. Baby showers now often include men and take place on a weekend afternoon, preferably not on the same day as a major sports event.
One thing that hasn’t changed, however: A baby shower is usually hosted by friends of the parents-to-be, rather than family.
